A 2018 study showed that men are having unwanted sex with women to "prove they are not gay" and due to social pressures and a sense that a male is not manly if he does not have sex with women when the opportunity is available.[1]
According to Jesse Ford, “All sexual assault is unwanted sex, but not all unwanted sex is sexual assault.”[2]
A 2006 study on unwanted sex experienced by teens found that 40.9% experienced unwanted sex, and that it occurred in 15.5% of encounters, which are typically taking place within romantic relationships. [3] The main reason these teens had unwanted sex is that they were concerned that their partner would become "angry if denied sex" (37.6%).[4] Factors associated with teens having unwanted sex included "...having a baby with the partner, lower relationship quality, lack of sexual control, less condom use, and partner marijuana use."[5] When teens have unwanted sex, they are less likely to use condoms.[6]
Charity Wilkinson states that the expression ‘unwanted sex’ is increasingly being used in journals, even though there is no consensus on the definition; she states that the term is defined in ways ranging from "...consensual, yet undesirable sexual intercourse, to rape."[7]
This kind of woman is more likely to have unwanted sex: study
Many women are still socialized to believe that sex is all about her partner’s pleasure.
617 LIZ POSNER APRIL 7, 2018 11:29AM (UTC)
Babe.net published allegations about actor Aziz Ansari,
New Yorker’s viral “Cat Person” short story confirmed many women’s complicated relationships with sex. Lots of women, it turns out, feel pressured to have sex when they don’t want to.
Heather Hensman Kettrey, a research associate at Vanderbilt University, : consenting to have sex with someone when they would really rather not.
women who prioritize their own pleasure and have agency over their sex lives are less likely to have unwanted sex. Kettrey writes that “pleasure prioritization and sexual agency are associated with lower odds of performing undesired sexual acts to please a partner—and sexual agency is associated with lower odds of succumbing to verbal pressure for intercourse.”
“Often women are socialized to be accommodating and polite,” sexuality educator Nicole Mazzeo told AlterNet. “A lot of it is politeness, and fear that the other person will be hurt by your rejection.” Nearly 90 percent of women say they’ve performed undesired sexual acts just to please a partner. Almost 80 percent of women have prioritized a partner’s pleasure over their own.
“The belief that sex is all about fulfilling male desire may set women up to engage in undesired sex for the sole purpose of pleasing a partner,” “If a young woman’s desire is not sufficient justification for engaging in sexual activity then her lack of desire in a given situation will not be sufficient justification for refusing sexual activity.”
sexist stereotypes that men are more interested in sex than women are, and that women’s desire is unimportant compared to men’s. This can cause both men and women to believe that, for women, sex is a necessary yet undesirable task.
References edit
- ^ Franklin, Lauren (15 July 2018). "Men admit to having unwanted sex with women to 'prove they are not gay' or 'weird'". www.pinknews.co.uk. Pink News. Retrieved 4 August 2018.
- ^ Franklin, Lauren (15 July 2018). "Men admit to having unwanted sex with women to 'prove they are not gay' or 'weird'". www.pinknews.co.uk. Pink News. Retrieved 4 August 2018.
- ^ Blythe, Margaret J., Fortenberry, Dennis; Temkit, M’Hamed; Tu, Wanzhu; Orr, Donald P. "Incidence and Correlates of Unwanted Sex in Relationships of Middle and Late Adolescent Women". Arch Pediatr Adolesc Med. 2006;160(6):591-595. June 2006 doi:10.1001/archpedi.160.6.591
- ^ Blythe, Margaret J., Fortenberry, Dennis; Temkit, M’Hamed; Tu, Wanzhu; Orr, Donald P. "Incidence and Correlates of Unwanted Sex in Relationships of Middle and Late Adolescent Women". Arch Pediatr Adolesc Med. 2006;160(6):591-595. June 2006 doi:10.1001/archpedi.160.6.591
- ^ Blythe, Margaret J., Fortenberry, Dennis; Temkit, M’Hamed; Tu, Wanzhu; Orr, Donald P. "Incidence and Correlates of Unwanted Sex in Relationships of Middle and Late Adolescent Women". Arch Pediatr Adolesc Med. 2006;160(6):591-595. June 2006 doi:10.1001/archpedi.160.6.591
- ^ Blythe, Margaret J., Fortenberry, Dennis; Temkit, M’Hamed; Tu, Wanzhu; Orr, Donald P. "Incidence and Correlates of Unwanted Sex in Relationships of Middle and Late Adolescent Women". Arch Pediatr Adolesc Med. 2006;160(6):591-595. June 2006 doi:10.1001/archpedi.160.6.591
- ^ Wilkinson, Charity. (2018). "Unwanted Sex Versus Rape: How the Language Used to Describe Sexual Assault Impacts Perceptions of Perpetrator Guilt, Victim Blame and Reporting".