Talk:Perfectionism (psychology)

The prevalence of unreasonably high demands mistaken for normal

Is there not a lot of young Westerners suffering from a kind of unconscious perfectionism? They place unreasonably high demands on themselves and others in the wrongful belief that the demands are normal. Anyone who can verify this?

2011-01-05 Lena Synnerholm, Märsta, Sweden. — Preceding unsigned comment added by 212.247.167.71 (talk) 19:30, 5 January 2011 (UTC)

yes, you are right. A lot of people are affected by Perfectionism caused by unrealistic expectations and goals pushed through strict families or medias. I believe I am credible to answer this question because I have perfectionism. I have friends that are trying to stop it and help me, but I will not accept that help. I do not place my expectations on other people because I know that my goals are difficult, but sometimes against my will I judge them harshly in my mind. you are right Lena 73.207.114.168 (talk) 17:07, 30 July 2024 (UTC)

Neurotic Perfectionism in Daily Life

I am in fact a Neurotic Perfectionist and it affects my day-to-day life. Most Perfectionist don't have the guts or the brains to admit or realize that they have a disorder, but I do. I'm not sure if it's causing my unwillingness to eat, I do think I am quite heavy for my age, even though the average weight is 68-135 pounds, I am getting close to that 135. Anyways, my perfectionism does rule choices I wish I had not made, like tearing all my posters down and getting only professional clothing for school, but it rules over me and I can't stop it. I will not say that I have anorexia, insomnia, anxiety, depression, or suicidal thoughts because that would not make me perfect, and even saying I am not perfect and that I am a perfectionist makes me mad.

Neurotic Perfectionism affects my life greatly, it annoys my family because I tell them that I do not want anything else in my life but school and work and the all-paid Scholarship for Emory University. I have my life planned out and I think that annoys them because I won't leave any room for new things. I write a lot and that's one of the things that my perfectionism hasn't gotten rid of yet, but only because I am not one to leave something I started. Such as my book series. I do annoy my friends and worry them with my Perfectionism because sometimes I hit myself when I did not do something right and it worries them when I say I'm fine and that nothing's wrong with me.

I can't tell my family about this perfectionism because they would tell me I'm being dramatic and that I need to man up. I believe Neurotic Perfectionism may come from a very strict household. My family is very keen on all As and all advanced and accelerated classes, and I have been dealing with that since I was barely in kindergarten. I believe that a family's only purpose is to prepare you for the world, and the way I prepare for the world is meticulous planning and studying.

I feel no happiness in accomplishments, merely the feeling of emptiness and longing for more. I suppose that's where my faith comes in, that God can accept me as I am, but Matthew 5:48 states "Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect." And so I realize even God wishes for me to be perfect, and so I must obey. Perhaps He is the one guiding my footsteps and choices to throw away and forget everything that had once brought me joy, perhaps He is the one who is telling me what it takes to be perfect, and I can't say no to God, so I must listen.

Anyways, that is that. 73.207.114.168 (talk) 02:26, 30 July 2024 (UTC)