Furir Bari Iftari is the Bengali tradition among Bengali Muslims in the Sylhet region of giving Iftar (the fast-breaking evening meal) to the household of one's daughter's in-laws during the month of Ramadan.[1][2] The term comes from the Sylheti word Furi (daughter).[3]

Furir Barir istari Celebration in Sylhet

The practice is not obligatory in Islam, but in-laws have come to expect it.[4][5] There have been incidents where a daughter's husband and in-laws have allegedly tortured her, driven her to suicide, or killed her, if her father has not given generously to them.[6][7][8]

Some commentators have criticized the custom as a superstition or an evil practice because it can be a mental, financial and social burden on a father who is poor.[9][10] In 2023 UNESCO added the iftar tradition of muslims to its list of Intangible Cultural Heritage.

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  1. ^ সিলেটে শুরু হয়েছে 'ফুরির বাড়ি ইফতারি'. ajkersylhet.com (in Bengali). 28 May 2018. Archived from the original on 30 January 2022. Retrieved 28 Jan 2022.
  2. ^ ইফতারে চাই-ই চাই আখনি-খিচুড়ি।. Bhorer Kagoj (in Bengali). 15 May 2019. Archived from the original on 29 January 2022. Retrieved 29 Jan 2022.
  3. ^ সিলেটের রোজা-ইফতার-ঈদ (in Bengali). Channel i. 18 July 2015. Archived from the original on 30 January 2022. Retrieved 30 Jan 2022.
  4. ^ মেয়ের বাড়ির ইফতারি বেচাকেনায় ব্যস্ত সবাই।. Prothom Alo (in Bengali). 19 Jun 2019. Archived from the original on 29 January 2022. Retrieved 29 Jan 2022.
  5. ^ মেয়ের শ^শুরবাড়িতে ইফতারি সামাজিকতার নামে অপসংস্কৃতি!. shomoyeralo.com (in Bengali). 23 April 2021. Archived from the original on 30 January 2022. Retrieved 28 Jan 2022.
  6. ^ সিলেটে বাবার বাড়ি থেকে ইফতারি না আসায় স্ত্রীকে বেঁধে নির্যাতন. dhakapost.com (in Bengali). 9 May 2021. Archived from the original on 29 January 2022. Retrieved 28 Jan 2022.
  7. ^ কবে বন্ধ হবে মেয়ের বাড়িতে ইফতার পাঠানোর সিলেটের কুপ্রথা?. Jagonews24.com (in Bengali). 13 May 2019. Archived from the original on 28 January 2022. Retrieved 28 Jan 2022.
  8. ^ চাহিদামতো ইফতারি না দেয়ায় অন্তঃসত্ত্বাকে হত্যার অভিযোগ. Manab Zamin (in Bengali). 9 May 2021. Archived from the original on 29 January 2022. Retrieved 28 Jan 2022.
  9. ^ ইফতারের গুরুত্ব ও তাৎপর্য. Daily Inqilab (in Bengali). 8 May 2019. Archived from the original on 30 January 2022. Retrieved 28 Jan 2022.
  10. ^ ইফতার লেনদেন রেওয়াজ প্রসঙ্গে. Sylheter Dak (in Bengali). 17 April 2021. Archived from the original on 29 January 2022. Retrieved 28 Jan 2022.