Dami "Oloni" Olonisakin (born 6 August 1990) is a British Nigerian sex educator and relationship advisor.[1] She runs the blog Simply Oloni and a podcast.[2] Olonisakin was included on OkayAfrica's 100 Women list.
Dami Olonisakin | |
|---|---|
| Born | 6 August 1990 |
| Nationality | British Nigerian |
| Other names | Oloni |
| Alma mater | University of Bedfordshire |
| Occupation(s) | Sex educator, blogger, podcaster, media personality |
| Website | Official website |
Biography
editOlonisakin has lived in the United Kingdom.[1] She was raised in a Nigerian and Christian household. She has one younger sister.[1] As a child, she did not receive comprehensive sex education.[3] Oloni earned a bachelor's degree in journalism with honours from the University of Bedfordshire.[4]
Media work
editSimply Oloni blog
editOlonisakin started the blog Simply Oloni in 2008. She wrote her first blog posts at the age of 18, in response to a sermon that opposed abortion.[5][2] She said:
I was just like, you know, surely this message isn't right. Surely they should be teaching us if you do want to have sex, these are ways you can do it responsibly... And I think that's when it started to hit me, I really wanted to talk about the rights that women have.
— Dami Olonisakin, New Statesman interview[2]
Originally, she simply wrote about her and her friends' dating lives. When she started responding to her readers on her blog, that "was practically the birth of [her] platform".[1] Her readers' questions are anonymous. Some of her answers are short, while others are turned into full articles. Simply Oloni addresses a variety of topics, including sexual consent, dating, STIs, abortion, sexual assault, and female orgasms. The blog is sex-positive.[2][5][6]
Olonisakin aimed to fill a gap in the sex and relationship advice market on Black women's sexuality. She said: "I felt the culture of dating and hook-up culture for a black woman and a white woman were different. Black women were being quiet about sex but it didn't mean we weren’t having it."[5] She has spoken about racism in the UK sex industry.[2]
Other work
editOloni has a Twitter account. She encourages women to share their experiences, starting with the catchphrase "Ladies".[2] She runs the podcast Laid Bare, where she and two other Black women, Shakira Scott and Shani Jamilah,[2] talk about their own sexual encounters, advise their listeners, and discuss current events. They encourage women to enjoy sex. The listeners are mostly women of color.[7] Oloni gives relationship advice on the BBC Three show My Mate's a Bad Date.[8] The show focuses on helping bad daters improve.[2]
Oloni has given sex education workshops in secondary schools with a focus on consent.[3][5]
Awards and recognition
editOlonisakin's blog Simply Oloni won the 2015 Sex & Relationships Cosmopolitan Blog Award.[9][4] For the show My Mate's a Bad Date, Oloni won the 2020 Royal Television Society Midlands Awards for Breakthrough (On Screen) and On Screen Personality.[10] She was on OkayAfrica's 2019 100 Women list,[11] and featured as a Girl's Champion by BBC 100 Women.[12]
References
edit- ^ a b c d "Dami Olonisakin". OKAYAFRICA's 100 WOMEN-US. Retrieved 2021-01-13.
- ^ a b c d e f g h Manavis, Sarah. "How Oloni became the voice of female sexual empowerment". New Statesman. Retrieved 2021-01-13.
- ^ a b Preskey, Natasha (2019-12-01). "Oloni: 'Men don't like the fact I'm helping women wise up'". BBC Three. Retrieved 2021-01-13.
- ^ a b "Dami Olonisakin - beds.ac.uk | University of Bedfordshire". www.beds.ac.uk. Retrieved 2021-01-13.
- ^ a b c d Gallagher, Sophie (June 14, 2019). "Simply Oloni: Meet The Sex Blogger Who Reinvented The Agony Aunt". HuffPost. Archived from the original on 2021-02-25.
- ^ Manavis, Sarah (2019-01-04). "This could be the year of joyful singledom: A new movement celebrates solitude". New Statesman. 148 (5452): 17–18.
- ^ "'If you're going to watch porn, know it's not real': meet Britain's sex-positive influencers; In schools and on YouTube, these taboo-breaking educators are giving young people a helping hand". The Guardian (London, England): NA. 2020-02-08.
- ^ "My Mate's a Bad Date". www.bbc.co.uk. Retrieved 2021-01-13.
- ^ Godfrey, Kara (2015-11-20). "The Cosmopolitan Blog Awards 2015 with Blossom Hill Belle Blush: the party!". Cosmopolitan. Retrieved 2021-01-13.
- ^ "RTS Midlands Awards 2020". Royal Television Society. 2020-04-20. Retrieved 2021-01-13.
- ^ "OKAYAFRICA - 100 WOMEN". OKAYAFRICA's 100 WOMEN-US. Archived from the original on 2020-11-23. Retrieved 2021-01-13.
- ^ "100 Women 2016: Trolled for giving sex advice to strangers - but I won't stop". BBC News. 2016-12-09. Retrieved 2021-01-13.